Tag Archives: depression

live …. life….


no living soul

should ever be so helpless

to let go of life


In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “IMHO.”

The co-pilot of a Germanwings flight that crashed into the French Alps sent the plane into its doomed descent “intentionally”, according to French investigators.

He was alone in the cockpit when he initiated the plane’s dive and refused to allow the captain back through the cockpit door, they said. Speculation over the reasons for his actions has centred around the co-pilot’s mental wellbeing.

The German A320 Airbus flight 4U 9525 from Barcelona to Duesseldorf came down in a remote mountain valley in France on Tuesday 24 March, killing all 150 people on board.

Reading this only one thing came to my mind…..the importance of ”minding your mind”.


Such a powerful organ….the mind. It can make you or break you. Any negative thought and wham you are gone. And any positive thought and you will rule the world. I know the mind plays games and no amount of money or fame can cure it. Look at the classic examples of Marilyn Monroe and more recently a great actor known for his comic roles….Robin Williams. Why and what led them to end their lives? They say depression, I say it is more about closetting yourself. Open up to your near and dear ones.
Another thing of great importance is the need of keeping your mind actively active at all times. I know it sounds weird…but having an active mind is one thing and actually working on involving the mind is another. Think about going away from negative thoughts consciously. It helps.
Third if at any time the above things do not work…then seek professional help. One should not shy away from going to a shrink it even going for medication. After all you only live once…and it is your duty to help yourself. If you won’t, nobody else can.
So get up and smell the coffee dear. Get a reality check. Don’t give up on yourself.

smell the coffee…

Soul Baring.


OK.,time for baring my soul. My name is Mona, I am a doctor, 49 years old. My blog name is Mira. I wanted to have a different identity .I love life but lately this has been slightly dampened by weird feelings of sadness. Never mind.

It is nearly six months I started this blog.I started this blog in July 2014 to …make myself busier. Happier…the likes and follows on my blog are to die for. And maybe someday to publish something of my own. That done, here us another thing. I was born into a middle class family. Dad was a doctor, a selfless man who loved his 3 daughters endlessly. He also loved his wife dearly but ….He died early. My depression started. I overcame it slightly by doing my masters. My son was born and there followed a rollercoaster of emotions. May have to discuss that, and my marriage under a different name later.

Then my chronic arthritis. I got out of my first pregnancy at the age of 22, with an autoimmune flare. I was diagnosed with ankylosing spondylitis, and am still fighting the exacerbations.

So…here again..my fears…I am scared of death, suffering, cancer…I have had 4 cancer deaths in my maternal family, pain, old age, children leaving me, me being the last survivor in my family, losing my looks …after all I was a late bloomer. In recent months, a major setback was losing my pet Snowy. It was a major setback. Whew…I am sure a coward. Whatever!!!! It sure feels nice telling all your of you about this.

But even then, I do love life and I am determined to make the most of what I have.
One more thing…please don’t judge me.

12 changes blogging has brought about in me.


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I have become a loner lately!

Since when? One guess …you tell.

  1. No, I am not under depression and no,I have the same amount of work as before,there has been no increase in work load. But I like my own company (and yours) more than anything else.
  2. But still, I don’t want to meet people or talk to them on phone.
  3. My husband feels that I have actually started paying less attention to him nowadays,but he is happy, with no nagging from my side.
  4. My kids are happy I am off their back. My juniors at work feel the same way.
  5. I am happy with less sleep nowadays.No cribbing about lack of sleep.I want 36 hours in a day.
  6. I am doing everybody’s work without complaining, because I don’t want to hear them talk unnecessarily and disturb me.
  7. I have started detesting outings. What a waste of time.But I love going to a place which has a good WiFi connection.
  8. Mealtimes are non fussy, because I eat whatever is available.Again no staying away from internet.
  9. Gone are the days when I would gossip for hours with my girlfriends.I have better things to do.
  10.  On top of that, I am happier than before.
  11. I have started spending less on material things. Saving a lot of money…yay!
  12. I am more at peace with myself and the people around.

Can you guess what has brought about these wonderful changes in me….BLOGGING.

It has made the world a better place to live in for me. What about you?

Please share.


Age Is Just A Number…12 reasons you should wait to get old.


Age is just a number they say. Ok, done. You may grow old in body but not in mind. Fine.Your body may ache, the mind may forget and you may be depressed…but age is just a number Ok, agreed.

There are benefits and drawbacks.

The Benefits.

You can get away with murder. No not literally,but there are many situations where many concessions are awarded to the senior citizens.

  1. Train and plane tickets are cheaper.
  2. You shall always be offered seats in a public place.
  3. You can conveniently afford to forget birthdays,anniversaries ….blame it on senile dementia. So you can forget to give gifts.
  4. Your birthdays will be celebrated with great pomp and show.
  5. Dress up a little and post your picture on social media sites. You will surely receive more than 100 likes, leave aside the compliments.
  6. Go for a morning walk,control your diabetes, and you will always be complimented on being so well maintained.
  7. Write a blog and you will always be a successful blogger, for very few of your age manage to do it.
  8. You shall receive innumerable gifts, as now you even have grandchildren.
  9. You can relax and enjoy all family events secretly sipping your wine, as you are too old to do anything else.
  10. Sleeping during the day is a luxury you can indulge in, as you have insomnia.
  11. Can say no to sex anytime you are not in a mood…after all your age doesn’t allow it!
  12. You can ogle at the younger lot without suspicion….maybe he /she reminds you of your granddaughter/grandson.(you can hug them too.)

So I think aching bones, wrinkles, dementia and insomnia are a very small price to pay for all the great benefits listed above.

What say!!!


Why do I blog?



Now now that is a question the answer to which was given to me by my son.He told me “”Mom you seem happier nowadays”. I looked at him with wonder. He set me thinking that nothing had changed in my life since the past 2 months except that I had formed a family outside my real family. My blogging community.There were people in faraway parts of the world who. I didn’t know personally but I liked what they wrote. They in turn gave wonderful comments on my posts. It is such an exhilarating feeling when a person who belongs to a different country , culture and ethnicity ,thinks the way I do,appreciates your work and I in turn totally understand and cherish their take on fashion and other topics.I was reaching out to wonderful people through my blog.

My another big reason of blogging is loneliness. Since my 13 yr old Lhasa passed away 3 months back I could feel a strange kind of sadness. That combined with my menopausal emotional upheavals made me go spiraling down. Then I had to take stock of the situation and stop the self destructive streak in me. I had to do something I loved , something different from my job. And I started writing. While going through Candidly Bleu’s blog, I started thinking about my reasons for blogging. I may be a narcissist but I am not harming anybody. Read me if you want or else avoid me but I will continue to write. I want to do it for myself and my sanity.

The following two sites actually set me thinking.




Next,it gives me immense creative satisfaction. I have gained so much knowledge that has help me improve my fashion sense and lifestyle choices. Also I learn in the process of sharing. It also has made that feeling of loneliness disappear. Mid life crisis? What is it? It has so helped me forget about it. At an age when children begin to have a life of their own,I have managed to carve  a small niche in cyberspace that is totally about me, about me and you.

And last but not the least I blog because I love what I blog about… fashion of course. I am a student of fashion not a teacher.So My dear fellow bloggers let us keep up the awesome work and join hands in an endeavor to make the world one big happy family through blogging. I want to share my opinions and feelings for that helps me grow.

It gives me the feeling of ownership. I own a piece of cyberspace.

Happy blogging.